Husband does not listen to me!

frustratedwife
frustratedwife

My husband does not listen to me. I swear it is like he does it on purpose just to cause problems between us. He asked me if I wanted a kindle for my birthday. I specifically said no and told him why. Guess what I got for my birthday - a kindle! He said it was b/c he thought I really wanted one and was just pretending not to want one b/c I thought they were too expensive (the gift I wanted was $20).So I asked him to return it b/c it was a huge waste b/c I just don't want one. He then did nothing for me for my birthday. When I said something, he said Okay, we will celebrate Tuesday - I should have done something b/c I got you something you did not want. Tuesday rolled around and he blew it off and did nothing! The next day I told him to just forget my birthday, it was too late now and he has blown it twice.So, that day he ran out and got the $20 gift I asked for originally! Now he is mad b/c I don't want it - but I told him just to forget it, my birthday is over and he had two chances, so its just too late now. He totally messed up my birthday twice and then 2x did the opposite of what I asked! I don't get it - is he trying to make me crazy. He does not listen!

Added (1). Okay - for those of you who said I should appreciate the present I told him before hand I did NOT want one, I did not like those - so the point of the question is HE DOES NOT LISTEN TO WHAT I TELL HIM - if he bought and I had not said anything, I would have accpeted it gracefully - but I told him I don't want one DONT BUY IT.

Added (2). Okay - you people who said I am a terrible person b/c I did not accept a gift are idiots whose own relationships must be a disaster. The point of the questions is a communication and respect problem. IF YOU DON'T HAVE COMMUNICATION IN A MARRAGE IT IS DOOMED - MY HUSBAND IS INCAPABE OF COMMUNICATION!

SHMILY
SHMILY

Wow I would have been happy for just getting a present period. I think his heart was in the right place. I think he gave up and thought there was no pleasing you anyway!

Jessy
Jessy

Sounds like you two have communication issues.
Get into counseling and try to get things figured out.

Brett
Brett

Maybe instead of being unpleasant about it! Accept the gift gracefully instead of having a sook about it, You obviously mean much more to him than just 20 dollars.

craig b
craig b

Tell you what… Spend another $20 and get "Love and Respect" (E. Eggerichs)
Neither of you know what's going on!

You want crazy? You're part of that picture.

Guest
Guest

Sounds like you two are getting along just great. Keep on with what you are doing.

DR Mrs Bears face
DR Mrs Bears face

He sounds normal to me. That is not to say that his behaviour is acceptable just very common.

ilovedthe70s
ilovedthe70s

What is a kindle?

Guest
Guest

Wow, I wish my life had such big problems…

Are you always this hard to please? Maybe he's just given up and is waiting for you to decide what to tell him to do, again.

Ginger
Ginger

If your hubby listened to you, I would think he was gay. God bless them but men just sing to a different tune. I have to talk about my birthday for a week just to get the hubby to remember. I dont' mind, he is who he is. I make it fun. And, we don't exchange presents, we just go out to eat together. I think that if you can just accept this and change your ways to prevent it from happening, you won't have to get hurt or angry anymore. I did, and things always go just fine in those regards!

Ask-The-One
Ask-The-One

I think that when you were so ungrateful for that gift (even if you did not want it)?

You should have returned it yourself and purchased what you wanted.

Didn't your Mom ever teach you manners?

Are you a grown woman or a 9 year old?

See the link below.

Peace.

Mr Warrior
Mr Warrior

Your too high maintenance as a spouse. Your complaints are quite petty.
I mean seriously, a $20 gift and you have issues with it.

Get over yourself, your marriage or worth more than that.

Never
Never

I think our husbands are related. Mine signed on the dotted line for a house I said no to about 5 times.

If you can stick it out, they do get better. They'll never be completely cured of the "I thought you really meant yes when you said no" affliction but when they slip just yell NO MEANS NO!